Hey friends,
“WHAT? I HAVE A FCKING BUTLER?”*
Right now, I’m on the treadmill at the St. Regis Jakarta. I booked it with free Marriott nights + AMEX Platinum.
Here’s what this place comes with 👇
- Unlimited tea, coffee, fruit, and sweets sent to my room
- Free AYCE fancy breakfast with steak and crab
- Free sauna + spa
- Free FHR $100 credit with AMEX Platinum which I used on a massage (best decision ever)
- A personal butler who brings me sweets and random treats on demand even at 2 AM
Here’s a shameless plug to my AMEX Platinum referral LOL.
There’s a gym attendant/trainer who brings me glass-bottled water from Bali, unlimited fruit, towels… and wipes down my machine before I’m done.
But here the thing.
I feel like I don’t belong.
Pretty sure I’m the first in my family to ever have a butler… even if it’s only for 2 nights.
Here’s what it was like growing up in a first gen household 👇
- My parents made <$70K a year combined
- We never ate out unless it was Costco pizza or a $1.50 hot dog combo
- We used grocery bags as trash bags
- I was always disappointed finding my grandmother’s sewing kit in the Dutch cookie tin… IYKYK
And now here I am… drinking Bali water while someone wipes my sweat off a treadmill.
The types of people here 🙋♂️
So I’m sitting at the St. Regis jazz bar, laptop open, working at the bar while sipping my overpriced mocktail.
As I’m thinking about how I don’t belong, I’ve noticed the type of people here.
- The douchey, demanding “rich” guy So there was this Russian traveler with his friend. The poor waitress was just doing her job and asks… “would you like your champagne now or with the meal?” And this guy, deadass, goes, “We want it right NOW.” Bro… you’re not going to starve without champagne.
- The broke expat tryna be bougie So I’m sitting at the bar and this woman approached me and was like… “Omg. Are you working at a bar?” I told her, “Yeah, I know I’m kinda weird. I love the ambient noise”. Then she hits me with, “Omg, you need to change the way you talk about yourself”. Umm… no. You’re just projecting because you think being weird is a bad thing. She bragged about “always” staying at Ritz Carlton and St. Regis… but when I actually talked to her, she didn’t even have status. Also, every time I ran into her, she was complaining to the staff. My broke senses were going off.
- Low-key “I’m used to this” ballers So I also at the bar I met a few business owners and C-suite execs. Unlike my ass, who is trying to milk all the benefits, they’re people who’ve clearly done this before and used to the treatment. They just enjoy the experience because this is normal for them. Meanwhile, I’m over here shoving Bali waters in my luggage and binge eating the AYCE breakfast LOL.
And sitting there watching all this, I realized the one thing these people had that I didn’t…
I’m uncomfortable people doing sh*t for me.
“So Mr. Kevin, would you like your bedtime tea now or in 30 minutes? Should we pack your luggage for you?”
I’ve spent my whole life serving other people, so having it flipped feels… unnatural.
- In pharmacy I was taking care of patients.
- In sales I had to read people and be empathetic.
- With clients I’m always thinking about how to cater to them.
The question in my head was never “Do I want to?” It was always “Can I do this?”
A lot of my friends who grew up with money are already used to this kind of treatment. For them it’s normal.
The butler, the tea, the service… all nice.
But that’s not what stuck with me.
Convenience is the real luxury.
People think luxury is posing next to an Aston Martin, eating caviar every day, or dunking your face in overpriced Saratoga ice water.
But honestly, the real flex is convenience.
I didn’t have to think about a single thing.
- Coffee, tea, and Bali water appeared whenever I wanted
- Elevator always waiting
- Sauna anytime
- Buffet and à la carte breakfast (steak, crab, caviar) without leaving the building
- Room service twice a day + slippers by my bed every night
My favorite routine was grabbing my jasmine tea and americano, heading to the lobby, and getting lost in 90 minutes of deep work.
Then I’d walk on the treadmill, hit a workout, sweat it out in the sauna, maybe take a nap, and repeat the whole thing three or four times.
I’m low key scared that this will all go away.
On my last day, I was like… omg, I’m going back to peasant life.
So I started hoarding everything LOL.
The free mouthwash, endless bottles of Bali bougie water, and desserts so I could give to my friends..
Then the front desk girl (who was kinda cute) surprised me with a going-away gift.
She remembered my favorite welcome drink, packed it with cookies, cakes, an ice cup, and even wrote me a letter.
As I rolled my luggage out, I couldn’t stop thinking… what if this didn’t have to be a “special occasion” thing?
What if this was my new normal?
Don’t get me wrong.
I’m never saying no to $2 Costco pizza. I’ve always been able to enjoy life whether I’m scaling up or scaling down.
But it hit me… why am I spending all this mental energy hoarding toiletries when I could just focus on bigger wins, like actually making more money?
I’ve wasted so much brainpower on “saving” and “budgeting.” Sure, they matter… but the payoff is tiny compared to the effort. No matter how hard you budget, a penny is still a penny… even in Southeast Asia.
The truth is, all that energy could be going toward creating more income.
Saving alone will never get you there.
By the end of my stay, I was already “used” to everything. Even the butler didn’t feel special anymore. The novelty fades fast… but the lifestyle doesn’t have to.
So what if instead of treating this like a rare splurge, I focused on finding 10x or even 100x opportunities?
I started thinking about what I actually want to keep from this experience.
Especially the habits, the mindset, and the systems that made life here feel effortless.
Here are the things I’m keeping from this stay 👇
1. I’m using the St. Regis or Ritz Carlton as a mental reset every 8 weeks.
I love that everything I need is in one place — tea, AYCE breakfast (plus a +1), the world-class bar, spa, sauna, gym.
It’s convenient, it saves cognitive bandwidth, and it creates space to think.
Two to three days here every couple of months would be the perfect reset to plan my next moves.
2. I want wealth and abundance to be my new normal.
Dan Lok (love him or hate him) talks about “wealth triggers”.
Basically it’s going to bougie places to experience your dream life until it feels normal.
He didn’t invent the idea, but there’s something powerful about it.
Being here had me asking:
- What if this was my normal?
- What else is possible beyond my everyday?
- How do I make it happen?
And honestly, the connections I made at the hotel bar were pretty solid too… other than that one girl who judged TF out of me.
3. I need to focus on systems to free up energy.
The thing about the St. Regis is that almost everything was done for me or could be done for me.
I don’t need (or want) to outsource everything, but how can I reduce friction in my day-to-day, especially in the age of AI?
At the hotel, the elevator was always waiting. The gym and sauna were just a short ride away. Unlimited coffee and fruit could appear in my room with one text. Someone could run my errands for a fee.
How do I create that same level of convenience in my business and personal life, so I can stay focused and actually enjoy the time I have?
Anyways, this is my life in Asia.
If you have hotel points, it’s definitely worth it in Asia.
People remember my name and go out of their way to make me feel special.
In the past few months, I’ve hit Malaysia, Thailand, Vietnam, Indonesia, Singapore, and Japan… and I’ve been able to do things here that would be financially impossible in the US.
I don’t drive, I order whatever I want, and if I see a kid at the mall, I’ll buy them ice cream for under a dollar.
…I even had a f*cking butler.
Kevin
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