In college I was brokeĀ š
Kevin here.
Don’t get me wrong.Ā My family was middle class. But we did our fair share of āAsian budgetingā for saving money. Does any of this sound familiar?
- Using groceries bags as trash bags
- Reusing glass jars as cups
- Reusing plastic takeout containers as ātupperwareā
Seeing my parents work so hard always made me reluctant to ask for money.Ā So I worked since I was 16.
I started as a cart pusher/bag boy at a bougie grocery store. Then I left a month later to sell vitamins and nutritional supplements at GNC. Finally in college I had a “more” legit job counting pills as a pharmacy technician.
Even when you have a job, it never feels like you have enough.
You might go out to eat, watch a movie, and fill up your carā¦ and next thing your know your bank account is shitting the bed.
College forced me to be creative with money saving “hacks” š
Things like…
- Avoiding the campus bookstore,Ā borrowing textbooks from theĀ local libraries, and paying the overdue fees
- Ordering nothing at a restaurant and telling your friends that I was ādietingā
- Figuring out how to be an iron chef with protein powder
Around the same time, I was also looking for theĀ best frugality tips. This was in the age of when “extreme couponing” was the craze.
Iāve gone through most of the internet looking for the ābestā saving tips. You probably have too, but let’s be real. These tips arenāt realistic.
Sure. You can pack your own lunch, clip coupons, or cut coffee. Thereās also always pulling cans out of the trash. Ask yourself first…
Is this the really best use of our time? Do we really want to live this way? Is this sustainable?
So today I wanted to share a better way than just follow āfrugality tipsā.
The best technique Iāve found
One of the best tips I found was the concept of āconscious spendingā by Ramit Sethi.
Itās the concept of ācutting costs on what you donāt care about, and spending extravagantly on the things you do.ā
Like letās be real for a second. Open up a mint.com account. Look at your purchases for the last week. Ask yourself…
- How many of these purchases did I not give a fuck about?
For me, I was going to the movies every weekā¦ when I didn’t give a fuck about movies. Or eating ādessertā when I didn’t even like sweets and I was trying to diet. For you? It might be going out to eat when youĀ love cooking or paying for cable TVĀ when you love watching YouTube.
- How many of those purchases made me feel rich or happy?
Itās important to know what makes us feel rich in life. For me, itās purchasing books on Amazon, going to the gym, jiujitsu, coffee shops, and investing.
No lie. Thereās no better feeling than having your Roth IRA maxed out in college š
And this is where I think most āfrugalityā tips fuck up. They just focus on being broke all the time. Who wants to live feeling homeless all the time?
Isn’t it easierĀ cuttingĀ and saving money on the things that donāt matter? You probably wonāt even feel the pain of ācutting backā. Add those things up and itāsĀ easy to save +$100/month.
In fact, youāll feel better because youāll be spending more on the things you love rather than cutting back on everything.
The bottom line:
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- Before you buy something give it theā¦ āDo I give a fuck about itā test
- Write out 1-3 things that make you happy (books, the gym/jiujitsu, coffee shops, investing)
- Write out 1-3 that you donāt give a fuck about (watching movies, cable TV, etcā¦)
Set up personal spending accounts with an online bank like Ally šø
Have you ever feltĀ guilty about spending?
I do, usually for self indulgent things likeĀ massages. Or for traveling. I mean how often do we catch ourselves saying…Ā I don’t have enough money to travel?
And honestly this is the hard part.Ā Spending money on what you loveĀ guilt free.
Now that youāve figured out what you care about and what you donāt, itās important to create a system so you donāt feel guilty about spending it.Ā
Whatās one of the ways I like to do it?
I use an online saving account like Ally. Why? You can set up separate specific accountsĀ so you donāt feel guilty about spending.
You don’t have to “think twice” about what you can afford. Your budget is right there in front of you.
If you have a stable job/paycheck, I like to setup automatic withdrawals from my bank account after my paycheck get direct deposited into my account.
So how do you go about opening an account? Itās easy.
Step 1: Open a saving account
Step 2: Rename your account to whatever you want
Step 3: Setup automatic withdrawal
Step 4: When you spend money, just transfer the money back into your accountĀ using the app.
Done.Ā The part where youāre probably screw up is transferring the money back. I like to just carry my phone with Ally app.
When Iām about to make the purchase, I login and transfer the money right then.
This is totally optional, but I highly recommend it.
Force yourself to find creative solutions
I know what youāre thinkingā¦ āWell Kevinā¦ What if I have no money to begin with?ā
Thatās a good point. Sometimes we donāt have money to begin with. Or maybe itās just not really realistic right now.
For me, I recently lost my job. So it wasnāt really smart to pay for a jiujitsu membership in Boston. Jiu jitsu can cost up to $150 per month.Ā
I still wanted to do jiujitsu, but chances are I wasnāt going to find a job ASAP.Ā So how could I still practice despite not having a lot of money?
So I went to my old kung fu school, where Iām a senior, donāt have to pay, and decided to drill my 10th Planet warmups with some my students.
Itās not optimal, but itās a pretty good compromise.
I read in Principles by Ray Dalio that most problems can be figured out with enough discipline and creativity.
A lot of the time, we tend to tell ourselves certain stories and give up. Likeā¦ āI canāt do ______ because Iām broke.ā
What if we could reframe the question and instead ask…Ā how can I do ______ despite not having money?
Can I mop and clean a gym in exchange for gym membership? Maybe I pool money with my friends to get a PornHub Premium membership. Or break an expensive meal into two meals so I get better value for my money?
The possibilities are endless.You better thank me for that PornHub premium tip.
Have you ever heard of anyone āsaving their wayā to a rich life?
I havenāt either.
At the end of the day, thereās only two ways to make more money. You eitherā¦
1. Make more
2. Save more
The truth is that saving only goes so far. Think about it. Thereās only so many coupons you can clip and coffees that you can cut down on.
Even the best āfrugalityā tips canāt help you if you donāt make any money.
Instead if you focus on making more money, thereās no limit to that. Think about all the ways you can make more money. You canā¦
- Negotiate more at your job
- Open a businessĀ
- Drive Uber
- Open a clothing line with teespring.com
- Suck a duck for living (my least favorite)
- Invest (my personal favorite)
And thatās why I donāt really write about frugality tips. Is it worth your time doing one of the above or collecting cansā¦?
As my boy Ramit says, āFocus on big wins over small losses.ā
With my parents, they saved on the everyday things so they could take us on vacations like Disney World and give us life lasting memories.
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Until next time,
Kevin the Refugee
PSā¦ Thanks to my Lily my subscriber for suggesting this topic.