I was 17 in high school and people were asking…
What do you want to do for the rest of your life?
This is a pretty scary question. I mean shit. A few years ago, my balls just dropped and not too long before that all I wanted to do was play Pokemon. How would I know?
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And I get it. It’s overwhelming… and your not alone. Sometimes even I’m still wondering, what I want to do for the rest of my life.
But when I got this question from Valacio on YouTube, I thought it could help the rest of you guys out. How many of you guys have been in Valacio’s situation?
Here’s how I would do it within an hour.
It’s not the sexy solution but here we go.
- Look around you. Who are the top 10 people around you that are happiest with their career and why?
- Contact them. See why they’re happy and why they love what they do.
- Find something interesting? Great. Use YouTube, read the top books on Amazon, and go on Reddit. We’re doing research before going balls deep. Although things like quality of life and how money you make are important… you should focus on your why. No idea what I’m talking about?Watch this video.
- Take people out to coffee. Contact more people and the specifics about the career. You can see if the things that you read online are true or the lesser unknowns. The more people you talk to, the more opportunities it opens for you like meeting new people or maybe even a internship.
What are the lesser unknowns?
- Didn’t find anything? Start over. Find more people. Start wandering a bookstore and see what you’re interested in. Think about what you liked doing when you were a kid. You might not find it with the first try… but this is a system. We’re seeing what sticks and seeing what doesn’t work… all without dropping thousands of dollars.
- Start planning. Either take a year off and plan what you’re going to do within that year OR drop money and go to pharmacy school. The most important thing you need to do is plan. You’re not going to cross your fingers, wait passively, and hope that inspiration will hit you. Give yourself a specific measurable goal and time frame. Why are you doing this?
Don’t wait.
- If you’re going to take time off, don’t fuck around. Figure out how you’re going to find a career you’ll be happy with. What sort of projects do you want to help out with? What books are you going to read? Who do you want to talk to? What courses do you want to take? What is your timeline?
- If you’re going to school, you want to figure why you’re going. Are you doing it for money? If so, what do you want to use that money towards? What is your plan after school?
At the end of the day, no one can answer whether you should go or not… That’s something you need to decide. It’s a scary decision, but wanna know what’s scarier?
Doing nothing and regretting it. We see it all around us. Older people saying… Oh I should of done this. We might pop out kids or we might need to take care of our parents. Life gets harder as we get older.
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Kevin Yee
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HEY MUDDA KEVIN!
Before I get started with my question, I would like to give you my sincere thanks for sharing your personal stories and uplifting me in every aspect possible. Keep doing your thing!
I’ve got to say, growing up, I’ve always been quiet and seclusive with my thoughts, mainly because I don’t want to project my burdens on other people. Even though I tend to isolate myself, I get along with others very well.
So about my personal story… I am a 17 year old girl in her senior year of high school. I have always been positive and ambitious, dreamed of pursuing a job that will benefit and help others (pharmaceutical path or engineering of some sort). From my childhood to Grade 10, I have excelled in my studies, placing among the top scholars in my grade. I also enjoy playing a variety of sports such as basketball, volleyball, softball, and soccer. My other hobbies include reading, surfing the Web, kicking it with my homies and family. I have always been this way… until my sister got diagnosed with terminal lung cancer.
When I found out about the devastating news, I was in complete shock and indenial. My sister is the one of the few people who I looked up to: she was the most uplifting and genuine person I knew. She was a successful entrepreneur with a family of 4 kids that were raised with a sense of morality. For two years, I’ve prayed for her strength and recovery and was always by my family. Even through the pain, she is the strongest person I know thus far.
Recently, she passed away… I guess God wanted her closer to Him. And ever since, things that were once a priority to me like my academics and sports have been overlooked and dropped because I just wanted to be in the company of my family. I’ve been feeling very down and unmotivated to pursue any of my dreams. It is my final year of high school and I’ve missed over a month of school overall because I don’t feel inclined to get out of bed. My grades have been falling and the final due date for university applications have passed. My parents still think I’m doing well in my classes, but I don’t know what to tell them… they think I applied to a lot of programs but I’m feeling very hopeless at this point.
Not many people (my close friends, peers, teachers) are aware of what I’m going through because I stay to myself most of the time when I am at school. They just think I’m becoming somewhat lazy and that it is a phase in my life, but I don’t want to waste my time explaining everything to people who are probably just curious. In retrospect, some people have observed that I’ve been acting outside of my character, but I neglected the people who are willing to help me, which is wrong. What can I say? I cherish solidarity. I would like to know how you would approach my current situation.
How can I cope with my sister’s death and feel motivated to pursue my dreams of being a pharmacist? How do I come about telling my parents that a fifth year of high school is better for me?
Asian parents yo… you don’t know what to expect. Anyways, thank you so much for your time. My apologies for going very deep in this post. I feel like you’re the only one who has access to my thoughts. You’re the man!