The secret to a happier life that no one talks about

My friends flew out from Boston to visit LA about 2 months ago.

I missed my friends back home. Don’t get me wrong. I met really cool people in LA, but I wanted my Boston friends to catch a glimpse of my LA life. Knowing this, I wanted to make their trip as memorable… so I took them to the most bougie thing I know.

LA brunch.

Bougie shit.

When I think of brunch, I imagine rich white people drinking mimosas in Beverly Hills while flossing their designer shit.

Typically I’m not about that life but bougie life tastes so duh mudda good man.

We took pictures of our food… So Asian LOL

While I was with my friends, I couldn’t stop thinking about my next article for Refugee Hustle. Refugee Hustle is my child. I can’t stop thinking about it and I feel guilty for neglecting it. After finishing up brunch, I said my goodbyes and went to a local coffee shop to start writing. 

…and now I’m wishing that I spent more time with them.

This photo was the last photo with Loan at brunch.

You never know when your last day might be.

As I’m grinding through pharmacy and Refugee Hustle, I always told myself one day I will relax or enjoy myself… But when was the last time you thought that today could be your last day?

The truth is tomorrow is never promised. Today and now are the only things that are certain in life. If you’re unhappy today, you’re going to die unhappy tomorrow. If you want something in life, now is the time. Life is too short to wait.

Our last day might be tomorrow

… but maybe you’re like me and you tell yourself

“I don’t have enough time to be happy! How the hell can I enjoy your life with all these obligations? What can I do?

Next time as you step outside of work or school, take a breath. Do one thing that makes you happy. It could be trying out a new type of food, getting that tattoo you’ve been thinking about, or as simple as going out for a walk. You owe it to yourself. After you’re done, take sometime to log it into a gratitude journal. 

You never know what make you happy… no matter how crazy it might seem.

It might be hard at first… but this is the first non-bullshit step toward being optimistic. Sometimes we get caught up in the hustle game and forget what we have in life. Happiness isn’t when we wake up in a new Bugatti. We already have it around us, but we just don’t take the time to enjoy it.

What is the secret to living a happier life?

Realizing that one day there will be no tomorrow and taking control of our happiness.

How are you going to take control of your life? Leave your comment below.

Kevin Yee


Thank you Loan for inspiring me for this post. We’re going to miss you. 

Thank you Loan.

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5 thoughts on “The secret to a happier life that no one talks about

  • September 17, 2015 at 10:11 pm

    For me, it’s realizing that learning new things is an ongoing process. Since living in the NYC area is a city of constant grind and hustle, I tend to forget taking a step back and appreciate the city-like environment and vibe. So instead of waiting for shit to happen in business college, I make sure that I take my pretty ass time to learn something new outside of school. Recently, a bike buddy taught me how to survive in an urban jungle on a bike by learning how to use hand signals and bike lingo. Because of our communication and effort, we managed to escape the urban jungle unscathed. Who knew I would learn so much about survival dodging cars and jaywalking pedestrians ?

  • September 21, 2015 at 2:02 am

    I agree with the above commenter! For me, it’s expanding your knowledge and talents by taking advantage of your opportunities. What I love about a lot of professional fields (like pharmacy) is that their career makes them maintain a certain level of professionalism at all times, and that ends up being to their benefit because that is the only way to be productive in a stressful environment. My mother got cancer a year ago and became physically handicapped over the timespan of a week, and all she called it was a “lifestyle adjustment.” Being around other people who are productive no matter their circumstances ends up adding value to your life, too 🙂

  • September 24, 2015 at 7:03 am
    Permalink’s kind of crazy how I ran into this website..I was YouTube-ing videos on becoming a pharmacist because I just finished a FIVE year bachelors degree program in Hotel and Restaurant Management and decided I was way too inexperienced and full of anxiety to pursue such career, not to mention the nights and weekends…(I know looking into a pharmacy career isn’t any different apparently). I’m realizing now I think I just either have extreme social anxiety or am just too much of a chicken for anything. I am a mother so it’s not really easy to shrug my shoulders and go back to school for a second career. I wake up everyday and struggle to go searching for jobs knowing I’m gonna end up in retail. Sadly now, after children, after I fought and earned the degree, is when I found out I should have studied something more technical that would promise me a Mon-Fri job with a normal schedule. Anyway it’s a struggle, I’ve suffered depression from an early age so going through these problems only threatens me with those depressive tendencies. But watching the YouTube video with your friend on how you were not fully happy with pharmacy even after a big check made me feel like I wasn’t alone. Also seeing how you’re pursuing your entrepreneurial spirit gives me hope. Most importantly reading your positive notes on the page really comforted me. Being in the situation I’m in I feel like I’m loaded with pressure to figure out what I need to do and figure it out asap. Believe it or not I actually landed my dream job withing a couple of months of graduation and I got a panic attack at work and ended up quitting….yea..that sentence makes me want to run to the psychiatric office…anyway thanks for this webpage and keep doing what you’re doing!

  • August 3, 2017 at 1:34 am

    I want to tell people how I feel about them. My words may not make them feel how I expected or it may be harsh, but I’m not the type to be unspoken. I read, rap, sing, observe, and write a lot.

    • January 30, 2018 at 3:15 am

      Self reflection is one of the most powerful tools for personal development and getting a life that you want. Too bad I can’t rap or sing. Wish I could though LOL.


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